“Few human joys are as deep and thrilling as those experienced by two people who love on another and have achieved something as the result of a great, shared effort.” – Amoris Laetitia, 130
A number of parishes provide Marriage Preparation courses , which are open to all and these are listed on our marriage prep central list
There are also a number of experienced providers used by parishes, who are delivering online and face to face marriage preparation. We recommend that you discuss and agree the provider with your priest. A certificate of attendance is provided for parish records.
Some of the more well-know remote facilitated marriage preparation options used in the diocese are: Marriage Care; Marriage Encounter- engaged ; SmartLovingEngagedUK; CatholicMarriagePrep;
General guidance
"marriage preparation should ensure that the couple do not view the wedding ceremony as the end of the road, but instead embark upon marriage as a lifelong calling based on a firm and realistic decision to face all trials and difficult moments together" (Amoris Laetitia, 211).
It is worth bearing in mind that undertaking careful preparation for marriage and gathering the necessary documentation takes time. Therefore, contact should be made with the local parish priest at least six months before the intended wedding date. The guidance below is designed to provide a brief overview of the process and to avoid problems further down the line.
Firstly, go and see the priest where you live before you make any arrangements for the wedding reception. He will explain what you have to do, the paperwork that needs to be completed and agree the marriage preparation resource.
Secondly, your priest will ask you to obtain a copy of your baptismal certificate that is not more than 6 months old and a copy of your confirmation certificate. He will want the same from your other half if he / she is a baptised Christian. In addition, many dioceses now require evidence of freedom to marry in the form of a Statutory Declaration of Freedom (the form is usually supplied by the priest).
You and your partner will also have to go to the register office to get a certificate to allow you to get married. You need to complete the Marriage Schedule. It is a couple's responsibility to obtain the form from the local Register Office where they are to marry and give it to the priest (Authorised Person), to enable him to marry them both religiously and civilly. The priest completes it and returns it to the Register Office post-marriage and the Register Office now provide the marriage certificate.
Marrying overseas: If the wedding is to take place outside the United Kingdom it is best to contact your local parish priest here in the UK before any arrangements are made with a priest in the other country. This is to allow time for the Church documentation to be completed and sent in advance of the wedding. Marriage papers for weddings taking place in another country travel via the chancery office in each diocese, then on to the office of the overseas bishop, before finally being sent to the place of marriage. You should allow at least three months for this, from completion of marriage preparation and all documentation, but the Church in some countries will require longer.
For further assistance please contact Roger Carr-Jones 07342 818686 rogercarrjones@rcdow.org.uk
Natural Family Planning - please visit our designated resource page Natural Fertility Awareness
“Here let me say a word to fiancés. Have the courage to be different. Don’t let yourselves get swallowed up by a society of consumption and empty appearances. What is important is the love you share, strengthened and sanctified by grace. You are capable of opting for a more modest and simple celebration in which love takes precedence over everything else.”
Amoris Laetitia 212
The Chancery Service
The main work of the Chancery Office is the processing of marriage papers – worldwide - for couples where the Catholic party, at least, is resident within Westminster.
Paperwork is sent to the Chancery from the parishes, where it is processed, recorded, and then forwarded to the parish/diocese of marriage. Please click here to contact the Chancery.